What Makes A Woman Beautiful?

what makes a woman beautiful

What makes a woman beautiful? Every day magazines, television programs, and blogs try to convince us that beauty is the attainment of physical standards that almost no woman meets naturally. And they try really hard to make us believe that if we buy their product, go on their diet, and adopt their fashion sense it will bring us closer to this beauty standard which, by the way, is also ever-evolving.

For some reason, we buy into it. And we buy all of it: the makeup, the memberships, and the materials. It’s not a cheap undertaking. In fact, it’s an endless pursuit for the next new thing. At least this investment in ourselves should bring us satisfaction and contentment, but does it? No. It only makes us focus more intently on the flaws that remain unaffected by our many efforts.

So why can’t we stop pouring so much of our money and confidence into a self-improvement strategy that plainly overpromises and under-delivers?

Before I give you my answer, I want you to imagine yourself as a woman whose wardrobe and accessories are all drab and dated. Your hair is dull and unfashionably styled and your teeth are yellowed. Even your skin is spotted and wrinkled. Horrified? Do you think a woman like that would be completely unlovely?

Scroll to the very end of this post and take a good look at the woman pictured there (then return here where you left off.)

What do you think?

Is the woman you imagined yourself to be like this woman? I’m guessing not because we don’t think a woman can be happy if she has to live without the advantages of physical beauty. We don’t think a woman can be happy if she has to live without the advantages of physical beauty. Click To Tweet

We’re not. And yet, this woman is smiling without a trace of self-consciousness. What does she know that we don’t?

what makes a woman beautiful

She knows that chasing physical beauty is the ultimate trivial pursuit.

Even if you’re one of the very few to attain it, it won’t guarantee you’ll be happy. Think of all the famous, gorgeous women who’s husbands have cheated on them. And too, you can’t keep it long. Beauty fades.

She also knows that inner beauty, carefully cultivated, radiates outward and overcomes any lack of external aesthetic. Look again if you need to. She’s lovely! Couldn’t you just hug her without knowing a thing about her?

Real, lasting beauty is rooted in qualities such as contentment, kindness, loyalty, generosity, optimism, and composure. But those things are hard-won and require us to lay aside our self-absorption. It’s much easier to work on the outside – open a jar, take a pill, or shop. And that’s why we stay on that disappointing path long after we know it can’t fulfill its promises.

I’m sure the little old woman – who’s wearing jewelry – would acknowledge that even an old barn needs a coat of paint now and then. So I’m not saying we kick our makeup kits and yoga pants to the curb. I’m saying we shouldn’t rely on them to be what they never can be – a replacement for the satisfying, unfading beauty of authentic character graces that come through faith. That’s what makes a woman beautiful.


what makes a woman beautiful

  • I think, compassion, intelligence and a sense of humor make a women beautiful no matter what they look like. No matter what peole say it always comes down to personality in the end because like it or not, looks fade. Great post!

  • This is a lovely post! There are so many things that make a woman beautiful, both inside and out. Sharing this!!

    • Alexandra T Armstrong

      Thank you so much! ?

  • that was a beautiful piece! <3 I think a sense of humor, understanding, having an open mind, and being caring is what makes someone beautiful! I think a woman is especially beautiful when she lifts other women up, empowers them, and cheers them on! You can only look young and vibrant for so long, after a while age does take it's toll and after that it's what's on the inside that counts.

    • Alexandra T Armstrong

      What a thoughtful comment, Justine June. Thanks for sharing!

  • Love this post, Alexandra! I’ve always thought the most beautiful people are those who open their heart to others, who can see the good in others as well as empathize. We all fall into the trap of thinking we should try this or that, but working on cultivating one’s soul is by far so much more beautiful!

    • Alexandra T Armstrong

      Amen, LeAnn! Appreciate your thoughts. ?

  • I have to agree with you, Alexandra! This little old lady is so beautiful! I love how she is full of life and radiates with so much confidence! #goals!


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  • This post made my heart smile!

    • Alexandra T Armstrong

      I’m so glad, Jenn. ?

  • A really wonderful post – I so enjoyed reading this! I guess there are a lot of things that make a woman beautiful, but I think that if you feel confident about yourself and accept who you are, it shows on the outside and people will see your true beauty!

  • Beauty is so much more than skin deep. We all have a different view of inner and outer beauty so there is no “standard.” Being a good person, giving and receiving love, and having a solid sense of humor are beautiful to me 🙂

  • confidence, kindness, selflessness all things that ,make someone beautiful

  • Lovely post! I especially love the part that beautiful qualities are hard-won. I agree and it is those qualities that we are remembered by long after our external beauty has faded.

  • This is a really wonderful post, encouraging self thought and awareness. Love it! Have you seen the movie: Miss Representation? It is such a beautiful film discussing misrepresentation of women in media and under-representation of women in leadership roles, etc. The writer/director wrote it in hopes to create a better more accepting world for her little girl. I truly believe that “beauty” comes from how we see ourselves. Self love, confidence, and happiness are such beautiful qualities!! Keep on being fabulous.

    • Alexandra T Armstrong

      Aarika, thank you for your thoughtful comment. No, I haven’t seen Miss Representation; but it sounds right up my ally. I’ll have to look for it. And, I’ll try to keep being fabulous, but it’s very hard work for a nerd girl. ? ?